I’ve been meaning to write a post about my aunt Gladys for quite a while. I’ve been putting it to the side for a while because I know it will bring up memories, heartache, lonliness, and just general sadness. I haven’t been sure that it was something I was ready to go into just yet. Or ever. But I also think that it’s important for me to get all my thoughts, feelings out. I think it’s important that I share with you what a great aunt she was.
Before I go into it 100% let me give you some background. Gladys is my aunt on my dad’s side, the only one I have. She was 17 years older than my dad. She never married and never had children. She had a long lasting love affair with a man much older than her (whom at the moment I can’t remember if he was married during the time or not). My dad was almost like a son to her and she was almost like a grandmother to me.
My aunt came and visited the United States many times while I was growing up before I headed to Argentina for the first time. When I did go to Argentina the first time (where all my relatives are) she was the only relative I actually knew. I don’t remember specifics of this trip or of the ones she made here, though. We (my mom and I) stayed with her the times we went to Argentina (mostly, sometimes we stayed elsewhere for periods of time). When she came to the US she would stay with me in my room.
Like I said, she was like a mother to my dad and so she was also very close to us. Even though she had other nieces and nephews (closer to my dads age than ours) and great-nieces and nephews living closer to her (read: in the same continent and town) – I think that my siblings and I were always closer to her and appreciated her more than they did. (Further proof of this will be given later on).
She called us often and we called her as well. She sent us birthday cards and letters. A couple of months ago I was looking over the letters I had from her and couldn’t help but smiling. As a teenager (and maybe a little bit now) I loved, LOVED the Backstreet Boys. She would listen to me talk about them and would ask me questions. In one of her letters she asked about them and told me how she had thought of me when she saw one of the member’s siblings on the news in Argentina. It was that sort of thing that I enjoyed. But it was much more.
I remember one of her trips here pretty clearly. It was 1991 and my eldest sisters’ college graduateion (from UC Berkeley). Not only had she come but my uncle, 19 years older than my dad, had also come. He was a big man (he passed away 10 years ago this past September). My family drove up California from Los Angeles to Berkeley for the graduation. We stayed with my sister and my brother – who shared a one bedroom apartment. It was very interesting – since there were 8 of us in that apartment. My uncle, being the eldest, got the bed and the bedroom (and the TV).
….let me take a second to tell you that my dad’s mom was from New York and he along with my aunt and uncle learned English as children. My uncle and aunt both made trips to the US as children and young adults – although they never brought my dad. My aunt even studied and taught on the East Coast when she was in her 20s…
So uncle Kent was in the bedroom. there was a futon type thing (I can’t remember exactly) where my aunt Gladys and TEO slept. Mom, dad and I were on the cushions from another couch. My sister was on the ground in a sleeping bag and my brother on another couch. It was VERY interesting. Especially since we all wake up at different times and have different umm… noises coming from us during the night. There is video of this, no worries.
That trip was also memorable for getting stuck in the snow in the mountain (running out of gas and not realizing the rental van had a second tank with gas). Being the ONLY ones on the mountain road. Lots of things. Lots of memories. Lots of them on video, thank goodness.
My aunt visited here last in 2000 (I believe). We went back up north and visited my sister and her husband (this is before any of my nieces were born). It was a, well, typical family Christmas in our family. From that time until 2005 I didn’t see my aunt. I think it might have been the longest period of time I had spent without seeing her. By this time the letters were less frequent although phone calls were always made (thanks to Skype they became more frequent and longer). In 2005 a cousin of my go the Internet and asked me WHY I hadn’t come back to visit them. I didn’t really have a response. My mom hadn’t gone back to Argentina since before her mom passed away in 1998. I hadn’t even considered going by myself (since my mom had no interest and still has none). I decided to look up flight tickets. To my surprise they were only $618 round trip! Wow! I didn’t imagine them being that low. I had that much in my savings! So after talking about it with my parents and siblings I decided to make the leap! I bought my ticket and in July headed to Argentina. Of course my aunt was EXTATIC and I stayed with her while I was there.
Alright, for now this is all. More to come.